On Being an Older Sister

Ate – Filipino term for elder sister, used with or without the given name

I am an ate to two more sisters.

The other day, after hours of anticipation, I received this message from my younger sister, the one born after me.

My sister and her friend recently flew to Macau for a missions trip and got held up at the immigration. When I received my brother’s text of her being detained, I couldn’t help but bow down on my knees to God. We all know of horror stories of immigration officers preying on first-time fliers.

At that moment I suddenly realized that my 22-year-old sister isn’t a baby anymore. Being an eldest sister I’ve always looked at her as fragile (despite her size) and had always been protective of her, especially after our dad died. It suddenly dawned on me that she is all grown up, having adventures of her own and expanding her territories where ate can’t fight battles for her anymore.

For a minute I shed sad tears of letting go then wiped them away and laughed a great amount of joy and excitement for her and the many dragons she would soon slay.

Today, I woke up and got this message from my youngest sister.

My sister wasn’t an academic achiever until her last year in grade school. My family had always been trying to push her to study harder but it seemed like playing and having fun were enough accomplishments for her. It didn’t help that her older siblings where far away from home and she had no consistent supervision during study hours.

Last summer when I went home we had a very interesting conversation and it stirred her that she might be the only kid in the Lucasi family to graduate from grade school without academic distinction.

It was a big surprise for all of us when she made it straight to number two that first grading period and had maintained that standing for 3 consecutive gradings. I am bursting with pride as an ate.

Being an older sister is one of the most stressful relationship in a family.

It takes years of sparring and spurring to build a strong healthy bond. It’s harder than being in a romantic relationship because when you get sick and tired, you can’t break up with your sister. You can cheat on her but she won’t go away. You can deny your relationship but your surnames will follow you both wherever you go.

Being an older sister means you forgive seventy times seven times and you give without limit.

And after all that’s said and done, the adoration the younger ones give back to you is love that you wouldn’t find elsewhere. I could never imagine a life without these two calling me ate.


11 thoughts on “On Being an Older Sister

    1. Brady You should be able to put stadnard HTML tags in all of the copy fields (question, answer, main, result, correct, incorrect). So depending on what you’re trying to accomplish, that might be enough for you!@Kishen The jQuery plugin is also available on github at @Glenn Right now, question chaining is not possible. It is an interesting idea, so I will add it to my list of potential features to include. @Bruce I’m guessing you’re using the WordPress version of the plugin? If so, in the main listing of quizzes, look for the ID at the beginning of the line for the quiz you want to put on a page. In the post or page you want to include the quiz on, place [slickquiz id=X] in the post where you want the quiz to be. Make sure you replace the X with the ID you found in the quiz listing.@Oliver Lock Right now the quiz isn’t set up for weighted questions, I’m sure it’d be possible. You’d likely have to include a weight value for each question in your quizJSON object and then alter the calculateLevel method to factor in the question weights. I’d love to see your implementation do you have a github fork by any chance?@mike Simply placing an older version in your plugins directory should not cause any issues. If you fully uninstall the plugin via the wordpress interface though, it will delete all quiz data stored in the database. Were you ever able to get the quiz running again?@kathi wheeler Were you able to get this working? If not, could you like me to an example page on your site where you’re trying to add a quiz?@vkulkarni It’s definitely possible to integrate the jQuery plugin with a database or CMS. I’d suggest looking at the WordPress version of the plugin for example CMS like implementations. Basically, as long as you can load your quizJson to the page it doesn’t matter if it’s coming from a DB or hardcoded. @Michal Right now there isn’t an option to only display a set # of questions. I have had this request before though, and it is on my list so stay tuned. @Chris Thanks so much! I’d love to see your implementation!@GTP Thanks for the comment regarding jQuery versions and live() vs on(). The plugin has since been updated with the newest version of jQuery and is now using on() s.@vaishali It’s definitely possible to save scores to a database. As mentioned above, I’d suggest looking at the WordPress version of the plugin for example CMS like implementations. Basically, I’d suggest sending an AJAX request to your backend in the completeQuiz method after the scores are calculated and levels and ranks are determined. @salah I would have to see an example of this happening. There are certainly ways to optimize, some options might depend on what you’re trying to accomplish. You should try passing the JSON object right into the plugin, instead of loading a separate config file like so: $(‘#slickQuiz’).slickQuiz({json: {YOUR_JSON_HERE}});@Dennis Right now there isn’t an import / export option. I’m guessing you’re using the WordPress version of the plugin? That’s not a bad idea for a feature, so I’ll add it to my list. @Ruth Deutsch Currently the first lines of the correct and incorrect response messages are being styled by line 119-123 in the css/master.css stylesheet. You should be able to override those with your preferences.


  1. Masaya talaga maging ate… pag di natin binilang edad nila, magiging protective and strict tayo…pero pag binilang mo na at na-realize mo matanda na pala sila, matatawa ka!!! hahaha.

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