In marriage as well as in life, our focus must be on what we’re choosing rather than what we’re losing.
We have to embrace wholeheartedly the road on which we find ourselves. We as couples must become the change that we seek. Dreams that aren’t followed by deliberate choices don’t come true.
Healthy marriages begin with commitment and are sustained by discipline. Our part is to grapple with choices that don’t necessarily come naturally.
Every marriage rests upon the pilings of both partners’ choices. Every time a decision is ignored or reneged on, the marriage suffers a severe thunder shock. Every decision is crucially important.
Healthy marriages don’t happen by accident. The tendency of nature is toward the wilderness. If our marriage isn’t getting healthier, then it’s dying.
But if you find yourself in a marriage where you are the only one willing to be intentional about making these choices, don’t lose heart. These decisions will strengthen your character and move you towards maturity.
And who knows how God might use your faithfulness to bring change into your spouse’s life? Perfection is not our goal, love is.
But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead. I press on toward the goal to win the prize which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 3:13,14
Quoted from LIFEMATES, A Lover’s Guide for a Lifetime Relationship